VLog: July 31, 2023
I did my chemo bloodwork! The goose video is here
I did my chemo bloodwork! The goose video is here
I only stopped wearing masks in June of this year (and I'll start again soon)
A 1% chance of death is a terrifyingly high chance
The brain fog is real
Introducing Thomasin! (she purrs)
In addition to appendex cancer, I also have bipolar (II) disorder and boy howdy is that a combination
Midland is boring, there are lots of appointments, pizza is great
I visited Mt. Sinai for a surgical followup (things are going great)
Today I made the journey to Toronto, to return to Mt. Sinai for what I hoped to be the final time, I had a followup appointment with the surgeon who preformed my aborted HIPEC surgery.
The surgeons were very happy with how my incision was healing. My home care nurse in Elliot Lake had been updating my surgeon, so it wasn't too surprising, but it's still great news. The area that seperated, that is still healing, is where my belly button was. My belly button was removed during the surgery (the only cancer that was removed), so there was some lost skin here. I hadn't made the connection, hadn't realized that I was missing skin, and this allows me to cease worrying that I could have done more for healing. I also hadn't figured that the belly button was the source of my pain all last year, so when pain returns, it can't be the same source.
I no longer have any physical activity limits. I can work my way up to any sorts of exercises I'd want to do (weight lifting would still be out, but I've never had interest). I was told that what I really want to do, gradually increasing my walking endurance, is exactly the sort of thing I should be doing. Which is fantastic, I'd love to recover some strength and a lot of endurance before I restart chemo, which is going to hurt both of those things. I should have a chemo rest period before the cold weather sets in, so I can recover more, but I remember how cold I was all winter, that will be a season of atrophy (I have Ring Fit Adventure for Switch, which I hope will help mitigate the winter losses).
This week I have to get a CT scan, and ensure its summertime hot flash, and visit the cancer centre at the Royal Victoria Regional Health Centre in Barrie, and then next Thursday I meet with my medical oncologist in person to discus the results and come up with our Summer/Fall treatment plan. My surgeon thinks that if we can afford to delay (the CT scan shows minimal change from the CT scan I had back in March at the end of my second round of chemo), we should allow the incision another few weeks to heal, but that it's healed enough that we could start chemo sooner. That's ultimately a question that only the medical oncologist can answer, and while I have some say in the matter, I fully intend to defer to her.
James Petrosky: As is traditional when non-Torontonians from rural Ontario visit Toronto, we got food that's hard to get in Midland (dim sum, in this case) and took a stroll in a walkable neighbourhood with fun stores (Chinatown, it's almost always Chinatown, especially because it's minutes from the hospital). We stopped at a Chinese bakery, many bbq pork buns were enjoyed (also a good selection of other tasty treats, but the pork is my favourite)
I really wanted to visit the Art Gallary of Ontario, Couch Monster is just outside the AGO), but the 600m walk from the hospital to the AGO took a lot out of me. But there will be future trips, hopefully planned far enough in advance that I can invite others.
I was pretty pleased about passing my licencing exam last year. But we now know that I did it with excruciating cancer pain AND some pretty bad intestinal panic. Also I did extremely well.
Couldn't have been prouder of any other accomplishment to end my career on (even though it traditionally marks the beginning of a career)
The following was originally posted July 23, 2022
This week refuses to quit with the ups and downs
James Petrosky: You can sad and care react if that's what feels right, but I'm genuinely pleased with what I accomplished, and am comfortable with it being an ending. I am at peace.
From now on, I'm displaying my PICC as well as I can.
Half in Elliot Lake, half in Balm Beach. Either way, I look exhausted and have intestinal distress.
Today I left Elliot Lake and returned home to Balm Beach, Ontario. Since we departed early in the morning on June 8th, I've only seen Thomasin for around half an hour. I adore Annie and Bessie, my Poodle Pals, and don't know how I'd have handled the last month without them, but I'm overjoyed and relieved to be with my cat again. And she's never been this affectionate. I know I'll eventually have to leave her again, but until that day we're together.
James Petrosky: My incision still has a lot of healing to do, and I'm still restricted on how much I can lift, and the motions I can make. If I were planning on returning to work, I'd still be off for two months.
Last day in Elliot Lake, tomorrow I travel home (and get to see my cat)
When I woke up from general anesthesia late in the day on June 9th, the equilibrium I'd grown comfortable with over the course of my treatment was shattered. End of life planning is a complex thing, there's a financial component, there's a kitty cat component, there's a what do I do with all my junk component, and obviously a fairly major medical component. And there's a surprisingly profound psychological component.
Obviously the biggest part of this is the sudden mandatory mortality salience. I think we do our best to ignore it much of the time, but there is no escaping the inevitably of it. And there's especially no escaping it when you hear or read the word palliative, in relation to yourself, several times a week. Or similar, more euphamistic phrases, such as "someone in your condition" or "with your diagnosis". The subject is inescapable.
(Most of the time I'm actually fine with this, and would like to talk more openly and directly about it. I have an appointment with my cancer centre social worker coming up, and this is the main thing I'll discuss)
Another mental thing I did was give up on a bunch of things. Not things I loved, I didn't stop playing with the poodles, or seeing the friends I'm able to see, I still play video games and watch trashy shark movies. I gave up reading the news, because at that point I thought I has 3-6 months, and 3-6 months is just too short to be concerned about anything that didn't affect my circle of friends (everyone reading this is included), I'd still read things people shared, but I quit checking the CBC and APTN daily. I paused all podcasts, and considered moving some of the more upsetting ones (news and atheism podcasts, mainly, the latter because they cover a lot of heinous behaviour directed at queer people).
This last few days, my mental state has improved. I'm not at my old equilibrium, I had a treatment and the possibility of ten years then, but I've spent the year gazing upon death's terrifying face, and am seeing that it's just misunderstood, and there is comfort in that. A comfort that makes me want to remain in contact with the world as much as I can. I'm reading the news again, and while the stories are horrible, I feel like a more responsible citizen when I stay informed. And I'd forgotten how important those atheist podcasts were to my feeling of being part of a larger community. Being a good citizen and being part of community are extremely important values to me, I'm glad to have them exercised again.
James Petrosky: The moustache wants to stick straight out instead of connecting to the beard and I just might do it and go villian look
Gang, I'm dying, and all I've got is paliative chemotherapy.
The weather is nice in Elliot Lake, and I have decided that I'm not cutting my hair again.
There's not a lot to do in Elliot Lake when you're recovering from surgery.
A short video catch-up on my situation, intended for people who haven't been following me the whole time.
Demonstrating a little bit of Northern Ontarian accent. Poorly.
(aboot vs about vs aboat)